Seen, Soothed, Safe, Secure

Seen: More than someone being able to see the other with their eyes. It is awareness, attuning, and recognition. It is a reflection. Being seen informs me that I am real.

Soothed: Responding with empathy. If we are seen, and this leads to an empathic response, it is soothing physically and emotionally.

Safe: Being seen and soothed lets me know I am safe.

Secure: Being seen, soothed, and growing in a safe space contributes to our having a sense of security as we head out into our world. We have the confidence that we matter, that it is possible to experience empathy, and that there are safe spaces to operate within.

It is our mission at Edwards Counseling and Coaching to provide an environment where you will be seen, soothed, made to feel safe and to be better prepared to interact with your world more securely. Being seen is more than having an appointment. We attempt to be fully present with you and for you to be the priority. Soothing does not mean a pat on the back. By being heard and recognized, we are soothed. (As one man told me, “I don’t need a cheerleader.” My response to him was, “If you get ready to jump off a cliff, I won’t cheer you on”. Meeting in a setting where you experience being seen and being soothed creates a space of safety. The goal of this is for you to leave better prepared to feel secure in your world.

For some additional thoughts check out David Brooks book, “How to Know A Person”.